Separate rivals Come down hard on sibling rivalry, right from the start – without getting angry. If the kids argue, just stop whatever it is they want to do and let them continue only when they have stopped arguing.
Unite your kids. Ask your jealous child whether they would really like to see their sibling fail. Explain that each member of the family contributed to the strength of the whole. Try to promote a sense of family pride in your children and teach them the importance of locality to each other.
Let kids raise each other. Older siblings can be as influential as parents, so let them help and advise younger ones. The advice may not always be sound – Just hit him is not uncommon – but is usually well meant and makes for a better sibling relationship. Don’t stop younger ones from advising or conforming older siblings – they can sometimes be surprisingly wise.
Offer a framework to help siblings should not say please and thank you and show each other common courtesy. Speaking politely to each other as ha remarkably civilising effect on children’s behaviour.
Get them to take photos each other. You will be surprised how creative they can be!
If your kids are happy with their grandparents, stay out of the way occasionally to give them some time to enjoy alone together. Remember grandparent’s feelings, if they did raise you. Even if many practices have changed – babies now being put to sleep on their backs, breast-feeding being recommended – this does not invalidate your parents wealth of experience. Even if you don’t always agree with what they say, hear them out and consider their advice.
Send school photos or family photos and copies of school reports and certificates to grandparents if they don’t often see their grandchildren.
Use different names to distinguish between grandparents and avoid confusion: maternal grandparents might be grandma and grandpa and paternal grandparents Nan and Granddad.
Get online. Of grandparents live far away, encourage them to spend and receive emails, and maybe use a webcam, skype, facebook or facetime to stay in touch.
We can design beautiful kids album after the photo shoot, so sending an kids album to your Grandparents will be an great idea to show your children, too.
If you want to have a family portrait in Sydney, please feel free to contact Katsu anytime to book your session. 🙂
Just before bedtime, when you are separated from your child, it seems natural to call and say goodnight before they go to bed. One imagines that it will help them to sleep, and for some children it does. For others, however, it serves as a socking reminder of your absence and brings on a great rush of emotion. If you child is prone to homesickness, it can be best to phone to homesickness, it can be rested and busy doing something interesting.
See in the the future.New experiences, even pleasant ones can shock or overawe a child. As far as is possible, prepare your child in advance for what they have not encountered before: You might not be able to see Mummy from the stage, but I will be there. The doctor will need you to open your mouth like a tiger. If you wake up in the night time and want Mummy, Teddy will comfort you, Kids can benefit from being equipped with coping strategies in advance.
Make sure you that you take or ask your photographer to take a lot of photos of your children and yourself. Kids grows so fast and a lot of people misses the opportunities after all.
Explain that the word “sorry” is useful only it it means, I will try not to do it again, and that all apologies are only as good as the actions that follow them.
Combat disaffection with involment. Children of all ages are generally more contented once they have a role. Whether it’s washing up, gardening, making something, decorating or sewing, give your child a task that is achievable and rewarding.
Work animal magic by giving your child their own pet to look after. Knowing that the animal is solely dependent on them can give them a first taste of real responsibility.
Teach them to live by their own lights, not to be led astray by other people’s.
Take the long view. Separation can be as upsetting for parents as it s for children. If you are dreaming the school trip and think you will be anxious the whole time your child is away, remember that in all likelihood it will be a great experience from which they will grow in confidence and independence. A little time apart from parents can be truly liberating for a child. Make sure that you take a lot of photos of your children and you together as well as individual shots.
Arguing with your spouse or partner can sometimes be inevitable – young children can be pretty wearing but exercise damage limitation by agreeing in advance that thought you might have argue over an issue, you don’t trade personal insults in front of the kids and family.
Encourage your partner Never vie with each other from the children’s affections, rather, observe the good things about your partner’s approach to parenting, and be ready to compliment them and to boost their confidence. Be self aware . Imagine that you had yourself as a parent. Would you be happy? Would you like you? What would you think were your strength and weakness?
Think about your friends. If I had to choose one couple to be your own parents, who would they be and why? You may be surprised by your choice. but think about it. Are you giving your child what those parents give theirs? Can you? Should you?
Encourage your partner to have some photo sessions with you and your kids. People can take photos with their phones easily these days but how many photos do you have all together? Most people don’t have many! You can always contact me to do your family portrait in Sydney!!
If you are feeling stuck in a rut, try being more adventurous with the choices that are already available to you. Even small changes can be refreshing. Try different foods, or drinks, read a new genre of novel or bush walking or take some photos with your phone, or visit the places that you have never been to before. (Don’t forget to take your camera to snap!)
Be selective. Commit yourself to whatever you feel is really worthwhile, but beware of saying yes to every request that is made to you. You can not take other people kid’s to school and help in the school library and go on the school outing and undertake fund-raising and ferry a bunch of kids or babies home for tea and you then be fresh for your own children. Only undertake what you can achieve comfortably.
Relax with a drink. If you like to chill out with a drink in the evening, save it until after your children gone to bed. Early evening is a busy time with kids, and alcohol can make make it less easy to cope with conflicting.
Get the professional photographer to take some family photos at least once a year as your children grows so quickly. You don’t want to miss opportunity!
Have a nap. If you feel ratty and as though you just cant cope with your kids, try to snatch a nap. Even just a catnap – when you can. our good humour is far more likely to return after a revitalising rest. Children and sleep are certainly not bedfellows, so get into te habit of going to bed as early as possible.
Give yourself a break. Leave your children with someone you trust and have a little time to yourself. Even if you are only away from them for an hour or so, you will enjoy kids more when you return.
Fit a bolt (a small one would do)to the inside of your bedroom door so that, from time to time you can ensure a little parental privacy.
Nurture your spirit with whatever you have the opportunity and are not too tired.
This may not be often, but the more you and your partner enjoy each other’s minds and bodies, the better you will weather the challenges and share the joys of parenting together.
Use your head, if you are a full time parent, try to keep in the swim of adult life by reading, talking, taking courses or embarking on some home study.