Actions not words
Explain that the word “sorry” is useful only it it means, I will try not to do it again, and that all apologies are only as good as the actions that follow them.
Combat disaffection with involment. Children of all ages are generally more contented once they have a role. Whether it’s washing up, gardening, making something, decorating or sewing, give your child a task that is achievable and rewarding.
Work animal magic by giving your child their own pet to look after. Knowing that the animal is solely dependent on them can give them a first taste of real responsibility.
Teach them to live by their own lights, not to be led astray by other people’s.
Take the long view. Separation can be as upsetting for parents as it s for children. If you are dreaming the school trip and think you will be anxious the whole time your child is away, remember that in all likelihood it will be a great experience from which they will grow in confidence and independence. A little time apart from parents can be truly liberating for a child. Make sure that you take a lot of photos of your children and you together as well as individual shots.