Kids love a challenge and will immerse themselves completely in something they are trying to crack.
Even if you can’t understand why your child might want to try write down all the numbers to a million, get to the top level on a computer game or learn to skip backwards, be tolerant, Seeing a job through to the end its a trait worth acquiring.
Enough is enough. Kids need opportunity and the chance to develop their talents and interests; they don’t need to be signed up for so many extra curricular activities that there is no free time for just messing about.
Play on if your children seem musical, let them learn to play an instrument and try to dissuade them from giving up instrumental music lessons while at school. It’s easy to drop an instrument, but difficult to get back into playing again once peers have become advanced.
Allow freedom of expression in fashion, music, interests and pastimes, So long as our bottom lines are met – your children must be safe kind and conscinetious. Cut them a bit of slack around the things that matter to them but don’t have to matter to you.
Respect privacy. Let the older children open their own post, have private telephone conversations and close the door when they have friends over to play. A respect for your child’s privacy is unlikely to compromise their safety.
Offer wall space. If you have a newly decorated house, put up pin boards in your children’s bedroom so they can customise a bit of wall without getting into trouble. Use brightly coloured map pins that are easy to spot if they fall out.
Have secret signals. If public displays of affection embarrass your child, develop your own code it could be a low five for a kiss and a gentle punch on the arm for a hug. Big kids need affection, but are much more likely to accept it on their own terms.
Make sure that you have your family photos at least once a year, so you will have your memories to cherish forever.