Find the safe havens
Choose vacation venues where your older children can have a certain amount of freedome. Campus-style family centres are great for kids who are pressing to be allowed to do things on their own. Make sure that you know where they are going, if possible, get them to go in groups of two or more.
Get the ratio right. Take enough adults on vacation. Two adults to four kids can be tiring, four adults to four adults is far more relaxing. Invite along family and friends to improve the adults to kids ratio, and take turns with the kids so that adult couples are able to have a little time together.
Agree some ground rules in advance if you are holidaying with friends and their children. For instance, agree roughly when the children will have to go to bed, how much junk food they will be allowed to eat and how the babysitting rota could work. It’s best to tackle some basics before departure so that disagreements don’t spoil the holiday.
Make sure that you take a lot of photos during your holiday, so you will have a lot of memories to cherish forever.