When planning your holidays allocation aim to spend at least two or three days (in addition to family holidays) doing something special with your kids.
Work together. Once in a while, take your children to work. However boring it may seem to you, your work place can appear fascinating to your children. Let them do a little task, however, small to give them a role they can be proud of. Explain what happened and what you are doing. if it’s not appropriate to have children in your work place, try to bring home some work that they might find of interest.
Assess your kids. If you feel quilty that you are not spending enough time with your kids, ask yourself honestly whether you think it is doing them any harm. If they are happy, with the care you have arranged, theres every likelihood that they are coping. Are they eating and sleeping, playing and learning? If you have any doubts, think of ways of spending more time together , or free up what time you have to give them more of your attention.
Colleagues, family and friends often have need of our time, and adults needs can seem more pressing than children’s. But remember (as you are yet again on the phone to a lovesick friend) that – hard nosed as it may seem your children must have first call on you.
All kids need the odd treat, but there is not need to give lots of treats all at once. If your childrent want a sweet and a drunk, let the drink be something healthy; if they want a fuzzy drink and a snack, let the snack be something healthy. If you stick to this routine long enough, kids just accept it as the norm and get out of the habit of begging for double doses of empty calories.
Eat your words. Don’t be forever nagging about food. Keep an overall eye on your child’s diet, but don’t panic if there is the odd occasion when they eat lots of junk food. Inevitably, at parties and on special occasions, children will binge on empty calories, but try not to quit-trip them about this – they will survivel. The more you nag, the more they will want to eat unhealthy foods.
Take a lot of photos especially when you invite your friends or family to your place for dinner or Sunday lunch. Kids will be happier and you will have a lot of opportunities to photograph great photos for you to be remembered.
Choose vacation venues where your older children can have a certain amount of freedome. Campus-style family centres are great for kids who are pressing to be allowed to do things on their own. Make sure that you know where they are going, if possible, get them to go in groups of two or more.
Get the ratio right. Take enough adults on vacation. Two adults to four kids can be tiring, four adults to four adults is far more relaxing. Invite along family and friends to improve the adults to kids ratio, and take turns with the kids so that adult couples are able to have a little time together.
Agree some ground rules in advance if you are holidaying with friends and their children. For instance, agree roughly when the children will have to go to bed, how much junk food they will be allowed to eat and how the babysitting rota could work. It’s best to tackle some basics before departure so that disagreements don’t spoil the holiday.
Make sure that you take a lot of photos during your holiday, so you will have a lot of memories to cherish forever.